Bir Eşi Olmalı İnsanın

Bir Eşi Olmalı İnsanın!                                       

Bakarken yüreğinin kabardığı,

Gözlerinden gözlerine yüreğinin aktığı…

Aşık olduğu bir eşi olmalı!

Sabah gözlerini açtığında, yanında olduğunu görüp,

Şükürler etmeli Yaradana.

Koklamalı saçlarını uyuyan eşine şefkatle bakıp,

Usulca dokunmalı yüzüne.

Bir eşi olmalı insanın!

Varlığını hissedebilmek için.

Parmakları titremeli, incitirim korkusuyla.

Sürekli çağlayan bir pınar olmalı gönlü…

Kramplar girmeli midesine,

Onsuzluk aklına geldikçe!

Bir eşi olmalı insanın!

Rüzgar O’nun kokusunu getirmeli,

Yağmur O’nun sesini.

Elleri yanmalı ellerini tutabilmek için.

Akşam O’nu görecek diye, pırpır etmeli yüreği.

Kelebekler gibi olmalı insanın kalbi.

Ayakları birbirine dolaşmalı heyecandan, eve dönerken eşi.

Beklemek asırlar gibi uzun gelmeli.

Gelişi ile sonsuz bir nur dolmalı içine.

Bir eşi olmalı insanın!

Yüzüne baktığında, konuşmadan anlamalı derdini,

Tasasını, öfkesini, sevincini, coşkusunu…

Güven duymalı, her şeyiyle.

Başını göğsüne koyup huzurla uyuyabilmeli,

Tüm düşüncelerinden arınmış olarak.

Babası, abisi, arkadaşı, dostu, sırdaşı, anası, çocuğu olmalı…

Şımarabilmeli yanında.

Kıskanılmalı zaman zaman da…

Bir eşi olmalı insanın!

Sabah yolcularken işine, içi acımalı,

Daha yollarken özlemeye başlamalı.

Seni şimdiden özledim!!

Bir eşi olmalı insanın!

Akşam dönüşünü beklemeli sabırsızlıkla.

Gözleri yollarda kalmalı

Ve kapıyı çalmadan açmalı…

Aşkla karşılamalı,

Hasretle sarılmalı boynuna,

Özlemle koklayıp öpmeli,

Yıllarca uzak kalmışçasına!

 

Bir eşi olmalı insanın!

Her günü bir başka güzel olmalı yaşamın,

Bir başka özel, bir başka soluklanmalı her anında.

Verdiği hiçbir şeyin yeterli olmadığını düşünüp, kahrolmalı,

Daha fazla ne yapabilirim diye düşünmeli.

Bir eşi olmalı insanın!

Cennetten köşe almışçasına

Sevdiği, sakındığı, bakmaya kıyamadığı…

Her bir hücresinden aşkın fışkırdığı,

Çölde okyanusu yaşadığı bir eşi olmalı insanın!

Ben seni ölene dek seveceğim boş laf !

Ben seni sevdikçe ölmeyeceğim..

Can Yucel

NATURE VS. NURTURE

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The nature versus nurture issue has been around for ages, and scholars have still not concluded which of the two has a greater effect on a person. Nature, referring to heredity, and the nurture, referring to the environment, are two very reasonable explanations to why we are the people we are today. This debate over whether nature or nurture has a bigger effect on us has been argued and supported very well for both sides. Each side stresses very important details and good explanations for why nature, or nurture, controls how we develop. Experimentation and research has been conducted on these two sides, and each is supported with good theories as to why nature or nurture is the important influence on us.

Nature is believed to be what determines our personalities, looks, and other things because it's all genetically passed down. Any matter concerning traits relies upon the concept of inborn biology. Many American parents believe that any bad trait that their child has obtained is because of bad parenting, but it may be more a matter of biology, and genes that run through the family. It has been concluded that a newborn doesn’t have a blank slate of personality, but does have a set of inherited traits. Tests have been done at the University of Wisconsin to show that temperaments of an infant are influenced more by biology than experiences with their siblings.

In a way, our nature is our genetic gift, which gives us physical traits such as hair color, eye color, and form of the body. It does also determine the kinds of emotions and motivations we will experience, which can be endless. Any new emotion is not possible to experience unless there is change to our genetic material. So in a way, genes give us certain traits or behavior characteristics; but it’s all a matter of whether or not we carry out our certain inherited qualities. And our environment (nurture) can sometimes make that choice for us.

The other side of the debate claims that nurture is the cause to our behavior as well as characteristics. Even though genes are what give us that certain spunk to our personality, the environment has the power to alter it and make us into the exact opposite, as some say. Even the way that certain children are brought up can change how they turn out.

One comparison of how much the environment affects a child's development was done on tomatoes. Tomato seeds have certain genes in them, but what they grow into will be the same no matter what, and because of those genes in each seed, one may be destined to grow better than others. But if random seeds with different genes were split up into two groups, with different environments, it is likely that the quality of the tomato would differ. One group would have all the benefits to help them grow better, such as water, sunlight, good soil, and extra care. Whereas group two would be given bad soil, not enough sunlight and water, and no extra care. These differences in their environment would definitely change the outcome of the tomatoes because group one would turn out a lot better than those in group two. It's a matter of what kind of influence they receive to turn out a certain way. "Bad soil" can alter how something may develop, such as humans.

Different ethnicities have different expectations of how their child is to perform in school. We are perfect examples of the tomatoes because we all aren’t in bad soil, but some of us have higher expectations and environments, so we turn out differently than others. Asian families have higher expectations of their children when it comes to schoolwork. They are automatically expected to do well and excel academically at everything. This higher rate of expectations, and their environment with their parents, ultimately may lead to higher success for them in the near future. The way that Asian kids can be more successful, or even less because of all the pushing that they receive, is different from how other children turn out due to lower standards expected.

Along with having standards set for us in our environment, family surroundings can also affect a child. The family a child comes from is crucial to their development, thus, giving the nurture argument another reason why environment is important. Some authors know this, such as one who wrote this statement: "Children who grow up in a household with only one biological parent are worse off, on average, than children who grow up in a household with both of their biological parents, regardless of the parents' race or educational background, regardless of whether the parents are married when the child is born, and regardless of whether the resident parent remarries."

As our nature is a type of genetic endowment, nurture is the experience we have during our lifetime. But it's a little different from a regular experience because it resonates with our motivations and emotions, and acts like our inner eye. This draws us to certain experiences and ignores others that occur. Society is the influence in our environment that may tell us to act a certain way, but if our inner eye does not motivate us to act that way, we most likely will not. It can control and motivate us to act how society wants us to.

Nature and nurture are tied in together in ways that many of us do not see, and it's an ongoing confusion as to which one creates a person's personality, looks, etc. I have an eclectic view and say that nature and nurture are both important influences to a person as they are developing their traits. Our genes are important because what we have inherited is essentially the basis of what kind of person we are, but the environment can alter and develop a person even more.

Twin studies have been made to determine whether hereditary is the leading factor, or if it’s the environment. The results have shown that it's basically an even amount of influence on a person. The twins shared common interest in spicy food, struggled in math, while playing sports, and have similarities in temperament, tempo, and ways of doing things. The differences that they showed were in their working habits, and thoughts; whereas one brother was liberal, the other was very traditional. They had similarities due to heredity, but they did have differences because they grew up in two very different environments. They had their share of common things, as well as differences.

Nature and nurture are both important to acquiring or altering traits in a person. One or the other doesn't work dominate; there needs to be both heredity and environment to answer this long debate.

It seems that this battle between nature and nurture will go on forever because both sides can be easily backed up with supporting information as to which is more important. Some psychologists agree that nature and nurture are both major influences to the development of behavior. Psychologist Robert Plomin said, "…. But the genetic influence on traits and behaviors is only partial: Genetics account, on average, for half of the variance of most traits. That means the environment accounts for the rest." We receive genes from our family, but our environment and nurturing can alter that if strong enough, as an influence. Whether we notice it or not, nature and nurture are mixed in with each other, influencing traits of everyone.

Society is made up of genetic beings, and it formed because people have a genetic impulse to group together. If you were to be away from a group, and feel loneliness, that is a genetic behavior, as are all emotions. Culture is also an expression of our common trend as individuals. So it is safe to say that society, at a certain level, is a complex genetic creature, which sends messages to the other individuals, which are also in part genetic. It shows that nature can influence nurture, and vice versa, because an inherited behavior can change as time progresses. "… it is a fallacy to believe that any behavior that is genetically inherited cannot be modified over a lifetime."

Nurture has a larger effect on us than does nature. Nurture is the characteristic builder that we gain as we grow up. It is what defines our nature and makes us who we are. Nurture cultivates our nature, and it is the main regulator of our being. "

Bibliography

www.trinity.edu/~mkearl/socpsy-2.html

Kisa Corap Modasi

 Cocukluk yillarim aklima geldi birden.O yillarda: annem giydigim her ayakkabinin uzerine dantelli corap giydirmeyi bir gelenek haline getirmisti. Nerden bile bilirdiki simdilerdeki modaninda bu sekilde sekillenecegini. Bakalim el kizi bu coraplari nasil giyiyor:

Kisa corap nasil giyilir in sonuna gelirken en azindan birkacinizin "Kesin denicyem" dedigini varsayiyorum.

"O Kadin" 'in Ardindan...

Izlenen "O Kadin" filminin ardindan, acaba ayni senaryoda Yesim in hissettiklerini ben yazacak olsam, nasil yazarim diye dusundum bir an icin. Ve yazmaya basladim....

 ....Ne beklediğimi bilmeden, icinde bulundugum duzende hep daha iyi olmak icin yıllarca  bekledim.Sanki hayatımın yönü hic degismeyecek, o an hic gelmeyecekmis gibi...Kendime avuttum sadece!Evet yillarca avuttum kendimi! Bazen kendi kendime "Acaba yurudugum yolda karsima cikar mi?" diye sordum.Her yeni gune uyanisimda "Evet, bugun benim gunum olmali." dedim. Her yeni yil baslangicinda "Bu yil benim yilim olacak" dedim. Kendimi oylesine guclu bir koruma cemberi icine almistimki, cemberin disina cikmamak icin o kadar cok direndim. Aklim bana "Bugun olmadi.Ama yarin mutlaka." dedi; "Sadece bekle". Biliyordum aslinda kalbimin derinliklerinden bir fisiltinin geldigini.Ben ona yillarca kulak asmadim. Beklemeyi, yillarca beklemeyi tercih ettim.

Bazen yeni baslangiclar yapmaya calistim. Ama herseferinde yaptigim yanlislar, yasadigim hayal kirikliklari gozumun onunde belirdi . Tek duzenli birlikteligimin oldugu hayata bile mesafe koydum, koymak zorunda hissettim kendimi. Korkularimi saklamali, sonuna kadar direnmeliydim. Tekrar mutsuz olmayi, aci cekmeyi nasil goze alabilirdim ki? Neler hissettigimi an be an hatirliyordum ne zaman acaba yeniden mi desem. Hayal kirikliklarina, gecmise takilmis, kalmistim.Taki o an gelene kadar.

Gecmisi unutur olmaya baslamistim her gozgoze gelisimizde; her karsilasmamizda; her kacamak bakista... Bu tatli zamanlar tabiki o kadar uzun surmedi. Kendi kendime "Neden? Neden?" diye sormaya basladim. Baslarda sorulari cevaplamaktan kactim, bazen baheneler buldum. Ama sonunda yine pes ettim." Neden yolunu bekliyorsun?" diye bir soru yankilanip duruyordu icimde. Kendime yarattigim o cemberi kirma zamani gelmisti. Istemiyordum halbuki, kacmak icinde her yolu denemistim.Nafile!Her cabam bosa cikti. 

Bir gun o soruyu sormaya karar verdim. Soru soran bugune kadar hic ben olmamistim.Zordu, hemde cok zor. Karar vermistim bir kere. Bir sekilde cozulmeliydi hersey. Aldigim cevaptan sonra anladim kacamak bakislarin, karsilasmalarin en guzel zamanlar oldugunu, Hic cevaplanmasi gereken soru yoktu.Sadece o an vardi yasanan...Anin bana suprizleri vardi zaman zaman....

Ama ben o anlari yasamamayi istememistim. Istememeyi tercih etmistim.Nasil aldigim cevaptan sonra "o"na kizabilirdimki! ne yazikki bu benim tercihimdi, benim kaybedisimdi....

From Constructivism and the Crisis in U.S. Science Education: An Essay Review

The Controversial Nature of Constructivism in Science Education

Where Berube identifies constructivism as an outgrowth of the progressive movement, she claims that constructivism “is fraught with controversy and disagreement among educators the world over, but it serves as a valid, highly effective model for educating the nation’s children” (p.9). This is an intriguing claim.
A reader might wonder why something that is a valid and effective basis for education would be so fraught with controversy and disagreement the world over. One reading here is that whilst educators the world over are still vigorously arguing the case for and against constructivism, Berube already knows what the outcome of such a debate should be. Another possible reading is that in the wider international context (“among educators the world over”) there is “controversy and disagreement”, whereas "here" (in the U.S., where we are only concerned with “the [this, U.S.] nation’s children”) we know it to be “valid” and “highly effective.” I doubt that such personal or national arrogance was intended (despite my earlier comments on the inward-looking nature of the book), but Berube moves on without clarifying for readers why there should be such a contrast between the clear merits of constructivism and the divided state of opinion on the matter.

The reader who already knows something about the topic may deduce instead that this paradox derives from the undefined use of the term “constructivism,” which means so many things to different people. So constructivism is widely used as a blanket term for certain approaches to social inquiry that are “interpretative” and recognise the products of research as human constructions, often co-constructions of the researcher and the researched (Beld, 1994). Those of a more positivist bent, would wish to exclude such enquiry from being considered “real” research. If (these types of) constructivists argue that all research results (i.e., including in the natural sciences) are, in a sense, subjectively constructed by the researchers—as indeed some of them do—then this indeed leads to a certain amount of “controversy and disagreement.” Yet within science education internationally, constructivism is generally understood as the basis of a research programme which has driven a great deal of work exploring the nature of student learning and thinking in science over several decades (Taber, 2009d). Indeed, it is some time since it was suggested that its basic ideas are now so
widely accepted that it has become somewhat passé (Solomon, 1994). The constructivist research programme was initiated over a period at the end of the 1970s and the early 1980s by a series of seminal studies (e.g. Driver & Easley, 1978; Driver & Erickson, 1983; Gilbert, Osborne, & Fensham, 1982; Gilbert & Watts, 1983; Osborne & Wittrock, 1983) that were then followed up by many researchers around the world. These and associated publications made a number of claims relating to children’s ideas in science, their implications for learning, and the type of research needed to inform science teaching:

• Learning science is an active process of constructing personal knowledge

• Learners come to science learning with existing ideas about many natural phenomena

• The learner’s existing ideas have consequences for the learning of science

• It is possible to teach science more effectively if account is taken of the learner’s existing ideas

• Knowledge is represented in the brain as a conceptual structure

• Learners’ conceptual structures exhibit both commonalities and idiosyncratic features

• It is possible to meaningfully model learners’ conceptual structures

For further information please visit the following website:  http://www.edrev.info/essays/v12n12.pdf

Oscar Wilde's Wit and Wisdom

There are a lot of things Oscar Wilde said in this book. I figured you deserved to know something from his insightful book.  

 

A I feel like you can absorbed things through osmosis without recognition, but whatever. Let's start, shall we? 

"Life is much too important a thing to ever talk seriously about it"

"The Book of Life begins with a man and woman in a garden. It ends with Revelations"(Love this one)

"One's real life is so often the life that one does not lead".

"To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all" .

"Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation." 

"To become a spectator of one's own life is to escape the suffering of life".

"Life is never fair... And perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not". 

From Catch-22: There's this great scene where the men are talking about their pasts, and their fathers and stuff... Like, one guy is talking about how he's rich and good things are just thrown at him for no apparent reason, which leads him to conclude that the riches must actually be someone else's, and another fellow pipes up and says, you know, perhaps it was my father's. He worked hard his whole life and only suffered from misfortune. And there are few other examples of oh, this is mine--but maybe it was meant to be for you, and vice versa. And then one guy says: "Just for once I'd like to see all these things sort of straightened out, with each person getting exactly what he deserves. It might give me some confidence in the universe."

 "I wrote that on a dollar and Alyssa got it and refused to spend it, to the best of my knowledge, to this day. She kept it affixed to the front of her daily planner for the remainder of the school year. It was kind of touching. ....I miss Alyssa..."

"One can live for years sometimes without living at all, and then all life comes crowding into one single hour".

"I love acting. It is so much more real than life".

"One should absorb the color of life, but one should never remember its details. Details are always vulgar".

"The world is a stage, but the play is badly cast" .

"I wrote when I did not know life; now that I do know the meaning of life, I have no more to write. Life cannot be written; life can only be lived" .

"We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell'.

"In Paris one can lose one's time most delightfully; but one can never lose one's way" .

"But the past is of no importance. The present is of no importance. It is with the future that we have to deal. For the past is what man should not have been. The present is what man ought not to be. The future is what artists are"

"Women are meant to be loved, not understood". ( This is one of fav. quo).

"She'll never love you unless you are always at her heels; women like to be bothered".

"The one charm of the past is that it is past. But women never know when the curtain has fallen" .

"There is one thing infinitely more pathetic than to have lost the woman one is in love with, and that is to have won her and found out how shallow she is".

"As long as a woman can look ten years younger than her own daughter, she is perfectly satisfied".

"There is only one real tragedy in a woman's life. The fact that the past is always her lover, and her future invariably her husband".

"I sometimes think that God in creating man, somewhat overestimated His ability".

"What a man really has, is what is in him. What is outside of him should be a matter of no importance".

"Man, poor, awkward, reliable, necessary man belongs to a sex that has been rational for millions and millions of years. He can't help himself. It is in his race. The History of Woman is very different. We have always been picturesque protests against the mere existence of common sense. We saw its dangers from the first". 

"When a man is old enough to do wrong he should be old enough to do right also" .

"Man can believe the impossible, but man can never believe the improbable".

"People who count their chickens before they are hatched, act very wisely, because chickens run about so absurdly that is is impossible to count them accurately" .

"One can always be kind to people about whom one cares nothing".

"It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious".

"I like men who have a future and women who have a past".

"Most men and women are forced to perform parts for which they have no qualifications".

"Nowadays people know the price of everything and the value of nothing".

"I like persons better than principles and I like persons with no principles better than anything else in the world".

"It is perfectly monstrous the way people go about, nowadays, saying things against one behind one's back that are absolutely and entirely true".

"People who want to say merely what is sensible should say it to themselves before they come down to breakfast in the morning, never after"

"Nowadays most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one's mistakes". 

"The worst of having a romance of any kind is that it leaves one so unromantic".

"What a silly thing love is! It is not half as useful as logic, for it does not prove anything and it is always telling one things that are not going to happen, and making one believe things that are not true".

"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance".

"...Love and gluttony justify everything".

"Romance is the privilege of the rich, not the profession of the poor".

"Men always want to be a women's first love. That is their clumsy vanity. Women have a more subtle instinct about things: What they like is to be a man's last romance".

"Any place you love is the world to you" .

"...But love is not fashionable any more, the poets have killed it. They wrote so much about it that nobody believed them, and I am not surprised. True love suffers, and is silent".

"One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry'.

"Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring".

"Always! That is a dreadful word. It makes me shudder when I hear it. Women are so fond of using it. They spoil every romance by trying to make it last for ever. It is a meaningless word too. The only difference between a caprice and a life-long passion is that the caprice lasts a little longer" .

"Men marry because they are tired; women because they are curious; both are disappointed" .

"Once a week is quite enough to propose to anyone, and it should always be done in a manner that attracts some attention" .

"I am not in favour of long engagements. They give people the opportunity of finding out each other's character before marriage, which I think is never advisable".

"...In married life three is company and two is none" .

"The proper basis for marriage is mutual misunderstanding" .

"When a woman finds out about her husband she either becomes dreadfully dowdy, or wears very smart bonnets that some other woman's husband has to pay for" .

"There's nothing in the world like the devotion of a married woman. It's a thing no married man knows anything about".

"After a good dinner one can forgive anybody, even one's own relations".

"Laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is far the best ending for one" 

"Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship".

"Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend's success" .

"Relations are simply a tedious pack of people who haven't got the remotest knowledge of how to live, nor the smallest instinct about when to die". 

"To lose one parent... may be regarded as misfortune; to lose both looks like carelessness".

"I fare say that if I knew him I should not be his friend at all. It is a very dangerous thing to know one's friends".

"I shall never make a new friend in my life, though perhaps a few after I die".

"To get back to one's youth, one has merely to repeat one's follies".

"Youth is the one thing worth having".

"To be natural is such a very difficult pose to keep up".

"...Duty is what one expects from others, it is not what one does oneself" .

"He would stab his best friend for the sake of writing an epigram on his tombstone".

"The first duty of life is to be as artificial as possible. What the second duty is no one has yet discovered" .

"One should always be a little improbable'.

"Everyone should keep someone else's diary" .

"Whenever a man does a thoroughly stupid thing, it is always from the noblest of motives".

"A little sincerity is a dangerous thing, and a great deal of it is absolutely fatal".

"There is a fatality about good resolutions--they are always made too late" .

"One should always play fairly--when one has the winning cards" .

"I rely on you to misrepresent me" .

"A good reputation is one of the many annoyances to which I have never been subjected" .

"It is not good for one's morals to see bad acting".

"Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes".

"Starvation, and not sin, is the parent of modern crime".

"I can resist everything except temptation" .

"Sin is a thing that writes itself across a man's face. It cannot be concealed" . 

"...There are terrible temptations that it requires strength, strength and courage to yield to" .

"The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it" .

"The only difference between the saint and the sinner is that every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future" .

"There is no sin except stupidity" .

"If one tells the truth, one is sure, sooner or later, to be found out" 

"It is the confession, not the priest that gives us absolution" 

"It is a terrible thing for a man to find out suddenly that all his life he has been speaking nothing but the truth".

"Geniuses... are always talking about themselves, when I want them to be thinking about me" . 

"The public is wonderfully tolerant. It forgives everything except genius" .

"I like looking at geniuses, and listening to beautiful people" .

"I know so many men in London whose only talent is washing. I suppose that is why men of genius so seldom wash; they are afraid of being mistaken for men of talent only!" 

"The worst thing you can do for a person of genius is to help him: that way lies his destruction. I have had many devoted helpers--and you see the result" .

"I think it is better to be beautiful than to be good. But on the other hand no one is more ready than I am to acknowledge that it is better to be good than to be ugly".

"Good looks are a snare that every sensible man would like to be caught in".

"If you think of anything, you kill it. Nothing survives being thought of" .

"The value of an idea has nothing whatsoever to do with the sincerity of the man who expresses it".

"Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative" .

"All art is quite useless"

"If one cannot enjoy reading a book over and over again, there is no use in reading it at all"

"I like to do all the talking myself. It saves time and prevents arguments".

"Lots of people act well but very few people talk well, which shows that talking is much more the difficult thing of the two, and much the finer thing also"

"I always pass on good advice. It is the only thing to do with it. It is never any use to oneself"

"Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught" 

"When people agree with me I always feel that I must be wrong" .

"Young people, nowadays, imagine that money is everything, and when they get older they know it".

"I don't want money. It is only people who pay their bills who want that, and I never pay mine."

"It is better to have a permanent income than to be fascinating".

"There is only one class in the community that thinks about money more than the rich, and that is the poor. The poor can think of nothing else:.

"Sometimes the poor are praised for being thrifty. But to recommend thrift to the poor is both grotesque and insulting. It is like advising a man who is starving to eat less".

"As for begging it is safer to beg than to take, but it is finer to take than to beg".

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"I am never in during the afternoon, except when I am confined to the house by a sharp attack of penury".

"Society often forgives the crminal; it never forgives the dreamer" .

"Patriotism is the virtue of the vicious".

"Journalism is unreadable, and literature is not read" .

"As long as war is regarded as wicked, it will always have its fascination. When it is looked upon as vulgar it will cease to be popular" .

"The one duty we owe to history is to rewrite it".

"We have really everything in common with America nowadays, except, of course, language" .

"Somehow I don't think I shall live to see the new century--if another century began and I was still alive, it would really be more than the English could stand".

"It is only shallow people who do not judge by appearances".

"One should either be a work of art, or wear a work of art".

"He has nothing, but looks everything. What more can one desire?"

"I have made an important discovery... that alcohol, taken in sufficient qualities, produces all the effects of intoxication".

Regarding his brother's fondness for the drink: "Oh, he occasionally takes an alcoholiday".

"There are many things that we would throw away, if we were not afraid that others might pick them up".

"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live".

"Illness of any kind is hardly a thing to be encouraged in others. Health is the primary duty of life".

"An inordinate passion for pleasure is the secret of remaining young".

"I adore simple pleasures, they are the last refuge of the complex".

"It is better to take pleasure in a rose than to put its root under a microscope".

"Work is the curse of the drinking class".

"It is always with the best intentions that the worst work is done" .

"A mask tells us more than a face".

"Man is made for something better than disturbing dirt" . 

"I was working on the proof of one of my poems all the morning, and took out a comma. In the afternoon I put it back again". 

"Cultivated leisure is the aim of man" .

"One could never pay too high a price for any sensation"

"If there was less sympathy in the world there would be less trouble in the world". 

"Moods don't last. It is their chief charm" .

"It is only shallow people who require years to get rid of an emotion. A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure".

"A woman's life revolves in curves of emotion" .

"...A sentimentalist is someone who desires to have the luxury of an emotion without paying for it". 

"Punctuality is the thief of time--I am not punctual myself, but I do like punctuality in others".

"I have the simplest tastes... I am always satisfied with the best" .

Iki Sey

İnsanı 2 şey öldürürmüş: 1. sevmediğin insanın silahından gelen kurşun. 2. sevdiğin insandan gelmeyen ilgi.

 

İki şey kalitesiz insanın özelliğidir: 1- şikâyetçilik 2- dedikodu.

İki şey çözümsüz görünen problemleri çözer: 1- bakış açısını değiştirmek 2- karşıdakinin yerine kendini koy.

İki şey yanlış yapmanı engeller: 1- olayları akıl ve kalp süzgecinden geçirmek 2- Hak yememek.

İki şey kişiyi gözden düşürür: 1- laf kalabalığı 2- kendini vazgeçilmez sanmak, kendini övmek.

İki şey insanı nitelikli insan yapar: 1- iradeye hâkim olmak 2- uyumlu olmak.

İki şey geri bırakır: 1- kararsızlık 2- cesaretsizlik.

İki şey kâşif yapar: 1- nitelikli çevre 2- biraz delilik.

İki şey başarının sırrıdır: 1- ustalardan ustalığı öğrenmek 2- kendini güncelleştirmek.

İki şey bireyi milyonlarca insandan ayırır: 1- sorunun değil, çözümün parçası olmak. 2- Hayata ve her şeye farklı bakış açısıyla yaklaşmak.

İki şey gelişmeyi engeller: 1- aşırılık ( mübalağa, abartı, ifrat, tefrit ) 2- felakete odaklanmış olmak.

İki şey çözüm getirir: 1- tebessüm ( gülümseme ) 2- susmak.

İki şeyin değeri kaybedilince anlaşılır: 1- anne 2- baba.

İki şey geri alınmaz: 1- geçen zaman 2- söylenen söz.

İki şey ulaşmaya değerdir: 1- sevgi 2- bilgi.

İki şey “ hayatta önemli olan her şey “ içindir: 1- Nefes alabilmek 2- nefes verebilmek.